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Apr 01

That Little Voice In Your Head

By Pauline Martin-Brooks | Mindset

My fascination with the Occult started when I was quite young. 

My mum used to say that my nanna was a gypsy and that sometimes she could see things and they often came true. Like the time she said an Indian man was going to cause me great pain-that turned out to be my dentist!

So it was not uncommon for me to have moments of intuition myself that proved true sometimes under incredible odds.

For instance one day I was making a cup of tea and this flash hit me and I saw myself singing on stage - this just about crippled me - I don't sing. Someone once handed me a card on a dance floor and it said "I've seen you dance, if you can sing, call me" - I threw it away!

Well later that morning, I headed to an event where they had a Prize Draw and I put my name in for it. It was held at the old Convention Centre in Sydney and it was full, so more than 900 people were in the the room. I won the draw. Then I got up on stage and had to roll two giant dice, each outcome was represented by a prize that I could win except for the number 4 - that was SING A SONG - well you can guess what happened. I grabbed the mic and said oh no I saw this happening and I just know I'm going to be singing today. Of course I rolled a four had to sing a song. As i happened to know the team running the event they thought it would be a riot and chose the song Like A Virgin for me to sing in front of close to a 1000 people!

What was interesting about that event was that I had set my intention for the day to get to know as many potential affiliates as possible - I was the Affiliate Manager. So later that week when I ran an Affiliate Webinar everyone remembered me from the event! So I achieved my intention - just in a very round about way. Which is why people say be careful what you wish for!

Another time that stands out for me is when I fell in love in Canada many many years ago, I said to my now husband Conrad that I was very much in love with him but the only thing that doesn't make sense to me is that i always thought i would marry a James, and I believed very strongly in my intuition.

Without missing a beat he said babe I am a James and he proceeded to whip out his license and prove it to me and yes he was actually named James Conrad but never used the James. I like to use it when he chauffeurs me around, Take me home James I say!! Needless to say I married him shortly after!

So here's a question for you, do you ever hear a little voice in your head that tries to steer you in a particular direction?

I'm not talking about the voice that tells you to eat ice cream and sit on the couch I'm talking about the one that says you should go to that event, or you should submit a proposal for that job or you should write a blog about whats coming up so people get to know you better.

I've found that listening to my intuition does several things, one it gets louder next time and less easy to ignore. Two I feel like I'm helping myself and have faith in my psychic abilities - I truly believe we are all psychic and capable of so much more than we give ourselves credit for. Three it often leads to the perfect connection or piece of information that i was needing at that time.

The other thing I notice is Synchronicities for instance I'd barely heard of Dr Bruce Lipton a week ago, even though he wrote the book the Biology of Belief which should have been devoured by me years ago I'm sure.

His name was mentioned to me at an event I attended last week, then my girlfriend mentioned the title to me then a few days after that a fellow therapist mentioned it to me. So I'm about to buy that and I expect to find something rather profound in it because of the push from the Universe for me to read it.

So if something like that happens to you where several people mention something to you, act on it and expect great things to come of it. We don't get what we deserve we get what we expect.

Where are you placing your expectations and how is that affecting the way in which you show up on a day to day basis?

Are you setting intentions, heck do you even know what you value anymore and how to get more of that into your life?

Maybe you just need a Mindset shift, I help clients work out their values, remember what they're grateful for and generally uncover some limiting beliefs that have been holding them back for YEARS - If you need help in this area then please Click Here!

Mar 01

Meditation Anyone?

By Pauline Martin-Brooks | Mindset

I'm a big fan of taking the time to meditate, all great leaders have used meditation in one way or another over the years.

These days with technology available to us like wearable EEG devices that measure your brainwaves we really have no excuse.

Over the years I've tried meditating in different ways. I've done the stare at the candle method, the say your name method, the focus on your breath method, the mantra method, extreme meditation where people run around the room and blow whistles etc basically you name it and I've probably done it.

And I'm sure to some degree they were all a bit effective - the problem is that I didn't know how effective and without results it's challenging to compare and improve.

Just because you sit for 5 minutes with your eyes closed does not mean you are meditating!

Which is why I bought myself a Muse Meditation Headband.

I love muse so much I became an Ambassador for them and I recommend it all my therapy clients and they love me back and let me offer a discount!

Meditation is proven to shrink the part of your brain responsible for fight or flight stress response and strengthen the part of your brain that makes decisions - who doesn't want some of that!

We all have tens of thousands of thoughts in a day and sometimes our lives become ruled by our thoughts without us even realising.

Often those thoughts aren't of a productive nature and as a result our mood is not quite as joyful as one might hope!

Before you know it, it's the end of the day, you've achieved next to nothing, said some terrible things to yourself in the process and you're exhausted and you put yourself to bed, often to repeat the same thing the following day.

It's a vicious cycle and it can steal many weeks, months or even years from your life.

Two things that are easy and can break this cycle are feeling grateful and meditating.

Often when we dwell in 'negative emotions' like anger, frustration, guilt, shame, sadness, grief etc it's such a big jump to get to something like joy, happiness or bliss that we often don't even attempt it.

The great thing about gratitude is that it's like a bridge from those 'negative emotions' to "positive emotions".

The reason I put these in inverted commas is because there really is no such thing as positive and negative emotions there are only low vibration and high vibration and all emotions fit onto a scale with Gratitude at the midpoint.

I strongly believe you need to feel an emotion until it no longer requires to be felt. There's a saying that says unexpressed emotions may sometimes cause other organs to weep.

This just shows the connection between emotions and our health, which as science improves becomes even more obvious.

The Mayo Clinic uses meditation with their breast cancer patients for improved results and there are meditation retreats available globally that have had profound effects on terminally ill people.

So knowing all this do you think you can find time in your life for a little more meditation and a little less harsh self talk?

Of course you can, what if you could track your results and work out what method of meditating works best for you?

This is why I love my Muse! I've been able to run reports after my sessions that tell me exactly what amount of time was spent in a meditative state and what was spent in an active state.

The other thing I love about Muse is that it gives you a nudge when your mind starts to wander by playing a louder sound than it was before. This allows you to bring your focus back to the breath much faster than figuring out that you're mind has wandered when you're half way down your mental shopping list!

So this means that more of your meditation is actually spent meditating!

Which leads to efficient and effective meditation - who would have thought that was possible.

The other thing I love about it is that it rewards you with bird sound, when you're in the right mediation zone.

Of course if you find that distracting you can turn it off - but it makes me smile so I leave it on!

People who meditate train their brains, a wandering mind is part of the Human Condition but it can lead you to a life of less than you deserve.

So when is now a great time to get started?!

Click Here to get your Muse at a discount and start training your brain!

Dec 28

8 ways to silence your inner critic for good

By Pauline Martin-Brooks | Mindset

This week I walked into my office and said these exact words in my head.

‘Arrgh this is doing my head in” followed closely by “I’m losing my mind”

It’s no wonder at this point that I started to think less clearly. You see our minds are so unbelievably powerful that the thoughts we have, both in our heads and out, give cues to our body to behave in a certain way.

As a man thinketh so he be etc etc etc

Basically when I say something like that, it drains my strength and my mental capacity.

My husband has a particularly harsh inner critic it turns out.  So, I’ve been keen to explore ways to help him with it. These are some of my favourite.

The Muscle Testing Method

I love to do this exercise with kids and my husband on occasion. It’s based around kinesthetic muscle testing and can also be used to see if someone is lying to you.  More on that in a later blog post.

The method is quite simple and involves someone (Person A) raising their arm to the side. Someone else (Person B) tries to push their arm down while person A tries to keep it in place. Normally Person A can maintain their arm level without an issue. What’s interesting though if Person A then says out loud  "I’m an Idiot, I’m Stupid, What did I do that for" etc etc then Person A loses their strength instantly.  Person B can then push their arm down without an issue. If Person A then says things like "I’m strong, I can do this, I’m amazing", their strength instantly returns.

I’ve found this muscle testing method is a great way to identify the danger of your inner critic.  And it’s particularly effective with boys/men as they usually like to demonstrate their strength whenever they can!

The Distance Method

Many years ago, when I was working on my own inner critic, I used a technique where you visualise the inner voice. You imagine sending it down your body to your big toe and kicking it across a few football fields. It’s quite effective and you can add a sound in your head as you do it, which makes it a bit more fun.

The Friend Method

This involves directing the words to your best friend in your imagination. It’s interesting that the words we say to ourselves in our heads are so unbelievably harsh sometimes, that if we said them to a friend they wouldn’t stay a friend for long.

The Child Method

This involves you saying the words to either an imaginary child or better yet yourself as a young child.  Again this is quite a disheartening thing to do and it really helps minimise that voice.

Vocalise Method

Our inner critic lives in our head.  So it’s particularly useful to say out loud all those things that you normally say in your head. This makes it more real and it’s much easier to track your progress over time.

Written Method

This method involves you writing down every mean, horrible nasty thing that you say to yourself in your head. It’s quite enlightening and you’ll soon realise that, if you’ve ever spiralled, this type of thing is often the cause.

The Praise Method

This method revolves around six praise statements for every harsh inner critic statement. I love this method as it’s also effective in boosting your self esteem. I often use this with my husband when he verbalises something like “that was stupid” and I say out loud to him “I love myself because______”.  I repeat that five more times and he has to finish the end of the sentences.

This can be a real struggle for someone that beats themselves up a lot, but I’ve found it’s quite effective for helping people see a better side to themselves.

The Mean Kid at School Method

Imagine that your inner critic had a name and it was called after your least favourite person from school. Then when the voice comes into your head you can just thank it and ignore it like you might have done with that mean kid at school.

Your inner critic doesn’t have to be a lifelong companion, that’s the job of your intuition not your inner critic. So use the methods above and be aware of the voice and make sure you think it and send it on it’s way.